Everyone talks about being Friendzoned. How much it hurts... how embarassing it can get... how pathetic you can feel. In fact, what scares us the most about confessing our real feelings to our friends-who-we-want-to-be-more-than-just, is the infamous phrase:
"I think we're better off as just friends".
Because we don't wanna be JUST friends. We can't sleep, we can't eat and we can't stand knowing that THAT person you love is just a touch away but you can't have them the way you wanna have them.
So, you see, above all people, i know how it feels...
But no one talks about being the person who does the friendzone. The friendzone-r. The 'bad' guy.
No one talks about how hard it is having to say to your bestfriend, 'I don't like you LIKE that'. No one seems to care that as much as the person who is friendzoned is hurt, the person who friendzones is in deep pain too. It seems less tragic, less pitiful... but the pain is real.
So when you told me you like me, i already knew. It was obvious but I was hoping that I was wrong. Our friendship means a lot to me. But no matter how close we are I can't seem to imagine myself liking you that way. So i told you that. Exactly that. I told you how much you mean to me, how much i dont want our friendship to end just because a higher level of relationship is impossible.
You said okay. You said we'll still be friends. You said things wouldn't be awkward. I believed you. I was glad. I was wrong.
You removed me from Facebook. Probably blocked my number and I never heard from you again.
You literally became somebody that I used to know.
Sometimes you hurt people because they hurt you back. But what you did to me is far worse then what I did to you.
Yes sure it hurts knowing the person you love can never love you back the same way. But it hurts even more knowing that your friendship doesn't mean anything if it doesn't lead to the next level. That the friendship can be thrown away if it can't be used as a ladder for something more. That the friendship is just a 'tool'.
Yes sure it hurts knowing you will never get what you WANT . But it hurts even more knowing that you just lost what you NEED.
Ladies and gentlemen, I did not write this post to brag about how I'm the cool one who refused a relationship. Nor to make myself seem like a saint.
I write this to tell u that people who are Friendzoned aren't the victim. Nobody is. I write this to tell you that when someone tells you that they think you guys are better off as friends - most of the time, they f*cking mean it. They dont just say it to 'escape' or to use that as an excuse.
Im not saying you shouldn't friendzone people. Im just saying that you can't choose who you love. And you can't make someone love you.
Im not saying there's a lot more fishes in the ocean. I know how it feels to want that ONE fish.
Im saying these things happen and one day you'll find out that the things that you want aren't the things that you need.